You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode we explore Annette’s 365 Days of Orgasms journey — what began as an unusual personal experiment and evolved into a much deeper exploration of pleasure, desire, embodiment and sexuality.

We explore:

• The psychology behind 365 consecutive days of orgasms.

• What women may misunderstand about their own arousal and pleasure.

• The relationship between orgasm, desire and sexual satisfaction.

• How self-pleasure can affect partnered sex.

• The role of embodiment, presence and psychological safety in pleasure.

• Whether everyone could benefit from developing a regular pleasure practice.

• Why the greatest sexual experiences may involve much more than orgasm.

Research article: Building Blocks Toward Optimal Sexuality: Constructing a Conceptual Model.

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The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

I’m joined by Ally Iseman from Passport 2 Pleasure, a certified relationship coach, non-monogamy educator, pleasure advocate and speaker whose work explores how we can create more intentional relationships and more expansive erotic lives.

We explore:

• Erotic jealousy and what happens when jealousy itself becomes part of desire.

• Consensual non-monogamy and how to know whether you’re ready to explore it.

• How to talk to a monogamous partner about opening a relationship.

• The tension between security and erotic novelty.

• The mistakes people commonly make when opening relationships.

• Symbiosexuality—the emerging concept of attraction to the energy and dynamic between people in an existing relationship.

• Why designing relationships consciously may require us to question the scripts we’ve inherited about love.

Research article: The fewer the merrier?: Assessing stigma surrounding consensually non-monogamous romantic relationships.

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The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I explore with scholar Melissa M. Wilcox about the fascinating intersection of BDSM, spirituality, religion, ritual and sexuality.

We explore:

• Ritual, surrender and meaning within BDSM.

• The historical relationship between religion, pain and self-flagellation.

• What makes an experience feel sacred.

• Melissa’s research process for Devotions.

• Feminist Wicca, LGBTQ+ Christianity and Melissa’s academic journey.

• Why human beings create rituals in the first place.

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Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I sit down with The Queensman—a passionate submissive, service sub, tantra practitioner, latex fetishist, and the first Good Boy to appear on the podcast.

We explore:

• What it means to identify as a Good Boy.

• Mommy Domme/little dynamics and unconditional love.

• Why service submission isn’t about being a pushover.

• Hidden desires, shame, and self-acceptance.

• How tantra transformed his BDSM journey.

• Latex, caning, and his favourite kinks.

• Advice for anyone afraid to explore their desires.

Research article: Sexual diversity in the United States: Results from a nationally representative probability sample of adult women and men.

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Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I chat with internationally recognised Shibari artist Marie Sauvage to explore the psychology of presence, embodiment, ritual, and the artistic language of Japanese rope bondage.

We explore:

• How Shibari became Marie’s artistic language.

• Why rope is about communication, not just restraint.

• Presence, embodiment, and interoceptive awareness.

• The role of trust in Japanese rope bondage.

• Why Marie sees performances as rituals rather than demonstrations.

• A feminine perspective on contemporary Shibari.

Research article: Interoceptive Awareness Skills for Emotion Regulation: Theory and Approach of Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT).

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Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I speak with men’s sexuality coach Jim Benson to explore the psychology of masculine desire, tantra, erotic confidence, and the surprising science behind the multi-orgasmic man.

We explore:

• What it means to become a multi-orgasmic man.

• The difference between orgasm and ejaculation.

• How tantra transforms male sexuality.

• Overcoming sexual shame and performance anxiety.

• Awakening the “sexual animal within”.

• Why presence creates better sex.

Research article: Male multiple orgasms: a descriptive study.

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• Kiiroo here.

• Luxus here.

• Lovense here.

Science-backed libido support:

• Flow supplement here.

• Desire supplement here.

Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠

Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I chat with with Big Bear Hug to explore the psychology of trauma, boundaries, erotic identity, and the lifelong process of becoming ourselves.

We explore:

• The relationship between trauma and desire.

• Learning healthy boundaries inside and outside kink.

• Navigating triggers within BDSM spaces.

• Finding a kink-aware therapist.

• Becoming a “Desire Fulfilment Entity”.

• Belonging beyond labels.

Research article: Questioning Gender and Sexual Identity in the Context of Self-Concept Clarity, Sense of Coherence and Value System.

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Innovative Sex Tech:

• Lioness here.

• Kiiroo here.

• Luxus here.

• Lovense here.

Science-backed libido support:

• Flow supplement here.

• Desire supplement here.

Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠

Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I’m joined by Michael Corner, founder of Orgasmic Wellness, to explore the fragmented systems surrounding sexual health—and what it might take to connect people with better care.

We explore:

• What sexual wellness actually includes.

• Why finding the right sex therapist or practitioner is difficult.

• The barriers preventing people from seeking sexual-health support.

• What makes Orgasmic Wellness different from searching Google.

• The future of integrated sexual health and wellbeing.

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Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I chat with John Baku, the founder of FetLife, to explore the psychology behind one of the most influential platforms in modern kink.

We explore:

• How FetLife was created.

• The psychology of building online communities.

• Why belonging is so important for kinky people.

• The future of FetLife and BDSM education.

• Community safety, moderation, and transparency.

• Advice for people joining FetLife for the first time.

Research article: The Benefits of Facebook “Friends:” Social Capital and College Students’ Use of Online Social Network Sites.

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Innovative Sex Tech:

• Lioness here.

• Kiiroo here.

• Luxus here.

• Lovense here.

Science-backed libido support:

• Flow supplement here.

• Desire supplement here.

Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠

Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I chat with Amber Ella-Vatrix—conscious kink educator, tantra practitioner, neuroscience-informed facilitator, and creator of The Erotic Edge.

We explore:

• Conscious kink.

• Tantra and embodied sexuality.

• Heart-based dominance.

• Erotic transformation.

• The sacred prostitute tradition.

• Trauma, retraumatisation, and safety.

Research article: Polyvagal Theory: A Science of Safety.

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Innovative Sex Tech:

• Lioness here.

• Kiiroo here.

• Luxus here.

• Lovense here.

Science-backed libido support:

• Flow supplement here.

• Desire supplement here.

Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠

Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

Why do some versions of ourselves feel like coming home rather than becoming someone new?

Throughout my work as a psychology researcher, podcast host, and educator, I’ve spent thousands of hours exploring human desire—why we’re drawn to certain people, fantasies, relationships, and ways of being.

But over time, another question began to emerge.

What if our desires aren’t only telling us something about what we want...

What if they’re also revealing something about who we could become?

We spend our lives admiring certain people.

The confident leader.

The unapologetic artist.

The calm, grounded man.

The woman who walks into a room completely comfortable in her own skin.

We often assume we’re wishing we could be more like them.

But what if those qualities that we admire aren’t random?

What if they’re pointing towards parts of ourselves that have been hidden, suppressed, or simply waiting for permission to emerge?

The reason this work matters so deeply to me is because I didn’t arrive at it through theory alone.

Over the past several years (and arguably decades), I’ve experienced this process myself.

There were qualities I admired in other people that felt strangely out of reach.

As I began exploring different aspects of my identity, something unexpected happened.

Rather than feeling like I was becoming someone new, I gradually realised I was uncovering parts of myself that had always been there.

The recognition didn’t happen first.

It came later.

Only after giving myself permission to experiment, express different aspects of myself, and embody them did I begin to experience a deep recognition.

It was as though I was remembering rather than reinventing who I was.

I had the profound experience of connecting with aspects of myself I hadn’t felt since childhood.

It led to a complete change in how I view myself. I crafted the self that I truly desired and show up in the world entirely differently as a result.

As a psychology researcher, that experience left me with a question I couldn’t ignore:

What if this isn’t unique to me?

And it turns out, it isn’t.

That question has led me into years of reading, research, interviews, observation, and countless conversations, and it’s now becoming the foundation of a new piece of work I’m developing called...

The Desired Self™

The Desired Self™ is built on a simple but powerful idea:

The qualities we repeatedly admire, desire, or feel drawn towards in others often point us towards unrealised parts of ourselves.

Rather than creating an alter ego or reinventing yourself, The Desired Self™ explores a different possibility:

Perhaps the person you’re longing to become isn’t someone new at all.

Perhaps they’re someone you’ve always been.

To celebrate the beginning of this offering, I’m now opening a small number of Founding Sessions as I continue developing this framework.

The Desired Self™ Psychological Consultation

This is a private 90-minute video or audio consultation where we’ll explore:

• The qualities and identities you’re repeatedly drawn to.

• The patterns that appear across your life, relationships, work, and desires.

• The strengths and capacities that may have been hidden or suppressed.

• Practical ways to begin expressing and embodying more of who you already are.

By the end of our session, you’ll leave with:

• A personalised map of your Desired Self.

• Greater clarity about the qualities you’ve been overlooking.

• Practical experiments to begin expressing these qualities in everyday life.

• A personalised roadmap for your next stage of growth.

This isn’t therapy. It isn’t life coaching. And it isn’t about pretending to be someone else.

It’s a research informed psychological consultation designed to help you explore the possibility that the person you’re striving to become has been quietly waiting beneath fear, conditioning, expectations, or self doubt all along.

As these are founding sessions, I’ll only be working with a small number of people at a discounted rate while I continue researching and refining The Desired Self™ framework. There are only 5 on offer currently.

If something in this email resonated with you, I’d love to hear from you.

Simply reply with:

DESIRED SELF

I’ll send you all the details, answer any questions you have, and we can explore whether this experience is the right fit for you.

I’m incredibly excited about where this research is leading, and I’d love for a small group of you to help shape it from the very beginning.

Looking forward to meeting you!

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

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p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I chat with down with Mae —educator, former professor, and creator whose work has placed her at the centre of thousands of deeply personal conversations about sexuality, fantasy, insecurity, and pleasure.

We explore:

• Super orgasms and Expanded Sexual Response (ESR).

• Male sexuality and vulnerability.

• Consent, communication and respect.

• Kink and human connection.

• Sexual confidence.

• Why pleasure matters more than performance.

Research article: Five Cases with Expanded Sexual Response (ESR).

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Science-backed libido support:

• Flow supplement here.

• Desire supplement here.

Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠

Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I sit down with Midori—international sexuality educator, author, artist, and one of the pioneers who introduced Shibari and conscious BDSM to Western audiences.

Connect with Midori: planetmidori.com | fortefemme.com

We explore:

• The psychology of Shibari.

• Female dominance and leadership.

• ForteFemme.

• Creativity and eroticism.

• Sexuality education.

• The future of BDSM and Shibari.

Research article: Role Congruity Theory of Prejudice Toward Female Leaders.

Want to support The Erotic Realm? - grab yourself an amazing product and support The Erotic Realm at no additional cost to you!

• Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.

• Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.

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Innovative Sex Tech:

• Lioness here.

• Kiiroo here.

• Luxus here.

• Lovense here.

Science-backed libido support:

• Flow supplement here.

• Desire supplement here.

Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠

Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I chat with That_Scientist to explore the psychology of curiosity, brat dynamics, bisexuality, kink education, and why asking better questions may be one of the most powerful tools we have for understanding desire.

We explore:

• The psychology of curiosity.

• Discovering bisexuality later in life.

• BDSM and sexual health.

• Asking better questions.

• Self-discovery through kink.

• Erotic psychology.

Research article: Sexual health promotion and sti prevention on the margins: kink, bdsm, and sexually adventurous women.

Want to support The Erotic Realm? - grab yourself an amazing product and support The Erotic Realm at no additional cost to you!

Grab your Splashblanket here - don’t forget to use the code “eroticrealm” at checkout for a 10% discount!

• Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.

• Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.

• ProDx Health at home STI testing here.

Innovative Sex Tech:

• Lioness here.

• Kiiroo here.

• Luxus here.

• Lovense here.

Science-backed libido support:

• Flow supplement here.

• Desire supplement here.

Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠

Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode educator and author AncillaL returns to the podcast to explore one of the most important—and surprisingly overlooked—topics in kink: BDSM education.

We explore:

• How to choose a BDSM educator.

• BDSM mentorship.

• Communities of practice.

• Skill-based vs role-based learning.

• Education versus advertising.

• Building critical thinking in BDSM.

Research article: Kink Community Education: Experiential Learning and Communities of Practice.

Connect with AncillaL:

• https://fetlife.com/AncillaL

• https://www.patreon.com/c/ancillal?vanity=user

• https://www.instagram.com/ancillarykinksupport?igsh=MXYzeHBoZWliZjFmZw==

Want to support The Erotic Realm? - grab yourself an amazing product and support The Erotic Realm at no additional cost to you!

Grab your Splashblanket here - don’t forget to use the code “eroticrealm” at checkout for a 10% discount!

• Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.

• ProDx Health at home STI testing here.

Innovative Sex Tech:

• Lioness here.

• Kiiroo here.

• Luxus here.

• Lovense here.

Science-backed libido support

• Flow supplement here.

  • Desire supplement here.

Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠

Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I chat with Matcha to explore the psychology of switching, the emerging FemDaddy archetype, BDSM identity, power exchange, and the freedom that comes from embracing every side of yourself.

We explore:

• BDSM switches and switch identity.

• FemDaddy dynamics.

• Forced feminisation.

• Gender expression in kink.

• Communication and empathy.

Research article: “Switch it up”: A qualitative analysis of BDSM switches

Want to support The Erotic Realm? - grab yourself an amazing product and support The Erotic Realm at no additional cost to you!

Grab your Splashblanket here - don’t forget to use the code “eroticrealm” at checkout for a 10% discount!

• Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.

• ProDx Health at home STI testing here.

Innovative Sex Tech:

• Lioness here.

• Kiiroo here.

• Luxus here.

• Lovense here.

Science-backed libido support

• Flow supplement here.

  • Desire supplement here.

Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠

Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I chat with sex therapist and Shibari practitioner Julieta Chiara to explore the psychology of submission, women’s desire, erotic permission, and the transformative power of saying “yes” to yourself.

We explore:

• Women’s desire and sexual permission.

• Submission and empowerment.

• Shibari and Japanese rope bondage.

• Why “your first Dom is you”.

• Pain, presence, and transformation.

Research article: Are Role and Gender Related to Sexual Function and Satisfaction in Men and Women Practicing BDSM?

Want to support The Erotic Realm? - grab yourself an amazing product and support The Erotic Realm at no additional cost to you!

Grab your Splashblanket here - don’t forget to use the code eroticrealm at checkout for a 10% discount!

• Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.

• ProDx Health at home STI testing here.

Innovative Sex Tech:

• Lioness here.

• Kiiroo here.

• Luxus here.

• Lovense here.

Science-backed libido support

• Flow supplement here.

  • Desire supplement here.

    Enjoying the podcast? The Erotic Realm is an independent podcast and relies on support from listeners to continue. Become a paid subscriber today to help more erotic realms happen.

Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠

Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I sit down with legendary sexuality educator Barbara Carrellas, author of Urban Tantra and The Book of Ecstasy, to explore tantra, BDSM, conscious sexuality, erotic awakening, and the role pleasure plays in human flourishing.

We explore:

• Sexual flourishing and wellbeing.

• Non-genital orgasms.

• Pleasure as a pathway to healing.

• Emotional armour and vulnerability.

• Sexuality during the AIDS crisis.

• The Book of Ecstasy.

Research Artile: A new sexual wellbeing paradigm grounded in capability approach concepts of human flourishing and social justice.

Want to support The Erotic Realm? - grab yourself an amazing product and support The Erotic Realm at no additional cost to you!

Grab your Splashblanket here - don’t forget to use the code desire at checkout for a 10% discount!

• Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.

• Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.

• ProDx Health at home STI testing here.

Innovative Sex Tech:

• Lioness here.

• Kiiroo here.

• Luxus here.

• Lovense here.

Science-backed libido support

• Flow supplement here.

  • Desire supplement here.

    Enjoying the podcast? The Erotic Realm is an independent podcast and relies on support from listeners to continue. Become a paid subscriber today to help more erotic realms happen.

Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠

Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I sit down with Mistress Mira — professional Dominatrix and Mommy Domme, to explore the psychology of nurturing dominance, BDSM stigma, erotic self-acceptance, and the surprising power of being fully seen.

We explore:

• Mommy Dommes and nurturing dominance.

• Professional domination vs lifestyle BDSM.

• BDSM stigma and public misconceptions.

• Neurodivergence, autism, ADHD and kink.

• The psychology of erotic self-discovery.

Research article: Perceptions of and stigma toward BDSM practitioners.

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The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire

You can listen to this episode on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

The Erotic Realm podcast explores eroticism in all its forms, including the darker desires of BDSM and kinky sexuality. It’s mission is to humanise eroticism one erotic realm at a time.

In this episode I sit down with J to explore a journey that began with curiosity and evolved into a deeper understanding of kink, intimacy, and erotic identity. Together we discuss her experiences in sex work, her fascination with the psychology of desire, and how joining FetLife to better understand other people’s kinks ultimately helped her discover parts of herself she hadn’t fully recognised.

We explore:

• Kink curiosity and self-discovery.

• Introducing a partner to BDSM.

• Marriage and erotic exploration.

• Sex work and the psychology of desire.

• Ownership dynamics and intimacy.

• Women’s pathways into kink.

Research book: Women and Kink.

Want to support The Erotic Realm? - grab yourself an amazing product and support The Erotic Realm at no additional cost to you!

• Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.

• Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.

• ProDx Health at home STI testing here.

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• Lioness here.

• Kiiroo here.

• Luxus here.

• Lovense here.

Science-backed libido support

• Flow supplement here.

  • Desire supplement here.

    Enjoying the podcast? The Erotic Realm is an independent podcast and relies on support from listeners to continue. Become a paid subscriber today to help more erotic realms happen.

Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠

Apply to be on The Erotic Realm podcast here.

Thanks for listening!

Stay perverted,

Emma

Founder of Psychology of Desire | Host of The Erotic Realm

The Psychology of Desire partners with aligned brands in the realms of psychology, sexuality, and symbolic transformation. Interested in sponsoring? Start here.

p.s Want to explore my writing?

The Psychology of Desire Case File Series:

1. The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

2. The Psychology of Cuckolding: Jealousy, Power, and the Erotic Mind | Psychology of Desire: Case File #2

3. The Female Orgasm Demystified | Psychology of Desire: Case File #3

Mating in Captivity and the Lost Rituals of Desire: What modern relationships forgot about mating.

Auralism: The Psychology of Erotic Sound: Why Do Some People Hear Desire?

My Erotic Journey: From Repressed to Expressed

Free Giveaway & What’s happening in the Psychology of Desire Realm: The Desire Dispatch #01– June Edition

The Shadow’s Playground: When Suppressed Desires Visit Us in Dreams

Consent Doesn’t Have a Gender

The Sole of Desire: Foot Fetish Origins | Psychology of Desire: Case File #1

What Your Erotic Dreams Reveal About Your Deepest Desires

The Secret Life of Your Desire

Why Your Desires Are More Normal Than You Think.

What If Everything You Know About Men and Women Is Wrong?

A Love Note To Men.

The Hidden Key to Lasting Desire: It’s Not What You Think

Are Men and Women Wired Differently For Desire?

And don’t forget my Jung of Sex Series:

1. The Jung of Sex | The Alchemy of Libido

2. The Jung of Sex | The Individuation of Desire

3. The Jung of Sex | The Erotic Mirror

4. The Jung of Sex | The Archetypes of Desire